With twelve people living in my house, there is never a dull moment, rarely a clean sink, and very little time before another meal needs to be made. It would be easy for me to justify why my house is messy, the laundry is unfinished, or the children are dirty… but if the goal for my home is to create a place…
- where more time is spent with family and less time cleaning…
- where there’s no clutter and everything has a place, purpose and meaning…
- where a clean, organized, and functional house makes for a peaceful home…
- where the things inside the house reflect the values in our hearts…
- where love is the motivator behind everything done and said…
- where my children can grow and be encouraged to become all they were created to be…
…than excuses (justified or not) are never gonna get me closer to that dream.
Too often we convince ourselves if we just do more and work faster, we’ll be able to get it all done, when what we really need is to QUIT trying to do it all at once, STOP long enough to evaluate what’s not working, and CREATE a plan that actually works in order to get turned in the direction that focuses on the goal!
The hard truth is, when life isn’t going the direction you want, it’s time to STOP long enough to make some course corrections… and simplify what needs to get done because if your schedule doesn’t reflect what’s most important and necessary, you’ll wind up where you were before. You just can’t do it all… not well anyway. You need to stay focused on one thing at a time.
THE MULTI-TASKING MYTH
For years people have been buying into the lie that “more is better”… and the truth is, it’s killing us, our relationships, and our productivity.
Research suggests only two percent of us multitask effectively, which means the remaining 98 percent of us are running around like headless chickens in the name of “productivity.” ~Why Multitasking Is a Waste (and How to Truly Be More Productive)
Multi-tasking isn’t the answer to a peaceful home, happier kids, cleaner house, better marriage, organized closets, more time, or a thriving family. If you’re going to turn your house into a place where there’s more of what’s important and less of what’s not, then you’re gonna need to simplify the way you’ve been living.
I’m not saying you have to get rid of everything and fit your life into a backpack, but if you want to live an intentional life, than you’re gonna need to focus on one thing at a time… one step at a time… one day at a time and let go of what’s holding you back.
That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains. ~Steve Jobs
LAYING THE FOUNDATION
Multi-tasking will only overwhelm and frustrate you, so before you take your final steps toward making a schedule you can live with, you’re going to first create a F.O.C.U.S. Statement that you can refer to in order to stay the course and remind yourself to…
- Follow the plan
- take One step at a time
- stay the Course
- Until each step has been taken
- and you’ve Simplified your life and created a peaceful home.
If you want to make sure your time is being spent on what’s most important, you need to define what your goal is so your schedule revolves around that. Knowing what you’re focusing on will help you stay the course when things get tough, prevent you from getting side-tracked when life pulls you in another direction, and keep you hopeful when things don’t go your way.
Your focus statement won’t be the same as someone else’s because your life is different with different people and different purposes. Your focus statement is to help YOU stay on track by making sure that everything you do to Turn Your House Into a Home fulfills your goal.
Create a FOCUS statement for YOUR home!
Don’t get too detailed here… this is an overall picture that you’re creating in order to remain focused. This statement will be what you go back to and rely on when you’re faced with a decision throughout the entire challenge! This will help you evaluate and eliminate the clutter in your life and keep your goal behind the reason for everything you give your time to.
#1) WRITE DOWN WORDS THAT DESCRIBE A PEACEFUL HOME
This isn’t about what someone else thinks… this is YOUR home. Go ahead and ask your family what words come to mind when they think of peace. What words would you want to describe your home if you had to narrow it down to just three? (I told you were were getting focused!) Go ahead and use a thesaurus to help you out.
#2) WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU NEED MORE OF TO CREATE A PEACEFUL HOME
Make a list of the things you need MORE of. This isn’t a grocery list, or wish list… this is what you need in order to turn your house into a home.
- more time with your spouse
- more energy
- more laughter
- more healthy meals
- more order
- more compassion between siblings
- more time with family
Whatever it is for your family, write it down. Go back to your “What’s Important?” worksheet if you need some reminders. Then, narrow it down to just five words/statements.
#3) WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU NEED LESS OF TO CREATE A PEACEFUL HOME
Now, make a list of the things you need LESS of. These could coincide with your previous list (for example: more time with family and less time working), but it doesn’t have to. This is YOUR focus statement.
- less time in the car
- less time working
- less yelling
- less time picking up and cleaning
- less clutter (physical, emotional, or mental)
- less frustration
- less technology
Ask your family again what they would remove if they could. This may be a great time to tell them you don’t like cleaning either… which is why you’re working on changing things so there’s less focus on that and more time for fun. You may be the catalyst for this task, but you can’t do this completely alone. Take every opportunity you can to create a team within your walls.
Again, go back to your “Saying No” worksheet if you need some reminders of the things you’ve already thought needed to be removed from your life for now. Then, narrow it down to just five words/statements.
#4) WRITE DOWN WHAT A PEACEFUL HOME WILL GIVE YOU
After you’ve completed the previous 3 steps, now it’s time to sum it all up. This is the reminder of why you’re doing what you’re doing.
- to have love
- to have acceptance
- to have purpose
- to have order
- to have a place your family loves to be
- to have a place everyone looks forward to coming back to
- to have a place where your children can grow unencumbered by the rest of the world
- to have a place where love is the driving force
- to fulfill your purpose
You can choose one word or a statement. It’s your decision. Whatever you decide, these final three sum up the entire focus statement. Think of what will inspire you to keep going when you want to give up and what will remind you this is worth fighting for when you’ve had a bad day.
#5) MAKE COPIES AND HANG IT UP
Put it in obvious places for everyone in your house to see. The change won’t happen over night, but it will happen when you stop multi-tasking, quit trying to squeeze everything in, and begin to focus on what’s truly important to YOU and your family!
YOUR NEXT STEP… How to Create “Purpose-FULL” Moments