Many times, the stress in our life is a direct result of us saying “yes” to too much. We got caught up in the moment, didn’t want to miss out, had the best intentions, or wanted to do it all… but the truth is, we can’t. Just like there are only 24 hours in a day to get things done, there is only one you. While the world is busy convincing you that you can do it all, I’m here to tell you…
If you want a home that reflects your values and personality, as well as be filled with laughter and great memories, you’re gonna need to be intentional about what you do, and what you don’t do.
As long as you build your life around the belief that “you can do it all”… you’re going to fail. You weren’t created to be everything, go everywhere, and do it all. You might think it’s easier to just fall in line with the rest of the zombies walking lifeless in the world, but if you want something different… a home that’s peaceful, fun, and purposeful, then you’re gonna need to wake up and start being intentional about how you’re thinking, what you’re doing, and why you’re doing it.
WHAT YOU NEED TO “NO”
Saying “no” can be one of the hardest things you have to do when it comes to creating a schedule you can live with, but you can’t give 100% to every thing. Read that last sentence one more time… let it sink in… because if you want to Turn Your House Into a Home, then you have to pick what’s most important for this season of your life, and learn how to say “no” to the things that are actually keeping you from turning your dream into a reality.
No isn’t a cuss word… saying no is not a rejection. It’s a necessary protection of your Best Yes answers. ~Lysa Terkeurst
It’s time to stop living like everyone else… being miserable, stressed, and disappointed because you’ve bought into the lie that’s killing you… literally.
If you want to say “yes” to fun… laughter… love… understanding… order… intention… value… and happy memories, then you’re gonna have to start saying “no” to anything that stands in the way of that. You’re gonna need to remove the anger… yelling… depression… judgement… clutter… incessant cleaning… insignificant errands… and regret from your day to day lives if you want to live a better, happier, more complete life… and you’re gonna have to get ruthless about making it happen.
You have to fight for something more by allowing less to overtake, overwhelm, over-consume, over-cram, overextend, overspend, overuse, over-stuff, and overkill you day after day because creating a home isn’t just gonna happen. You need to do it on purpose. You’re gonna need to get focused, and you’re gonna need to say “no thank you” to the less important stuff so you can say “yes please” to what really matters.
This week, keep track of what you do each day…. not how you would like to be spending your time, or how you think you should be spending your time… but the truth about how you’re spending each day. You may have some change in plans, but that’s a part of life… so write them down. In order to make a schedule and move forward, you need to see where your time is being spent.
Remember, if you want to turn things around and make your house a home, you’re gonna need more time than you’ve been giving it right now. That doesn’t mean it will have to stay that way forever, but for now, your focus needs to be on creating a home.
#1) WRITE DOWN YOUR CURRENT SCHEDULE FOR EACH DAY OF THE WEEK
Some things you may do every day, and some things may take up only one day. Also, pay attention as you go about your tasks. You may think you know exactly how your time is spent, but some things may be taking you longer than you realize, and others may not be taking as much. In order to create a schedule we can live with that helps us turn our house into a home, we have to know where we’re spending out time, and how much time we’re spending doing it.
Important: In your schedule, be sure to include how many hours you’re sleeping. One of the areas we’re cutting ourselves short in is sleep. We just don’t shut down regularly. Keep track of how many hours you’re actually sleeping this week in case this is an area that will need to change.
Using the free printable, at the end of each day, write any time that you didn’t have something going on (free time, rest, or just nothing planned) by, “hours unused”. This does NOT include your sleep. This is simply to get an idea of how much time you have to devote to turning your house into a home with your current schedule. (And don’t worry if your current schedule doesn’t allow any! You’ll be working through that in the next step!)
#2) INCLUDE THE PEOPLE IN YOUR HOME
Print out a “current schedule” for everyone in your home and have them keep track of their week too. (You’ll have to fill it out for the little ones.) This will get everyone involved in the process, as well as know that you’re serious about making a positive change. This will be very helpful for those of you who homeschool children or work from home with little ones as well!
This may be difficult… but this is worth it, so don’t get discouraged! You’re on our way to turning your dream into a reality! You can do this!
YOUR NEXT STEP… When You Need to “No” Better
* This post is from the series Turn Your House Into a Home. If you’re just joining, please read When This Time Needs to be Different to begin with the first step!