I don’t know about you, but when I can’t seem to gain control, my attitude starts falling apart right along with the rest of the house. It’s also in this chaotic state of mind, I’ve been known to make some pretty bad decisions (for example: start a new sewing project, pull out all the items from a cupboard and start to organize, check email, rearrange the furniture, or decide to paint a wall… please tell me it’s not just me). Before ya know it, another day has passed and I’m not any closer to improving my home.
Getting off track isn’t something I do on purpose… but it does happen when I’m not being purposeful. When I allow what demands my attention to take priority over what should have my attention, things are gonna get out of balance, and when life feels “out of balance”, my house and everyone in it is gonna suffer.
Having a dream isn’t enough to make that dream happen…. you need a plan that represents what’s important to you so you can execute your goal. If your life is too full to make time for that dream, then you gotta shift some things around… or remove them.
TURN YOUR DREAM INTO A REALITY
If you wanna live a life that reflects your values, you have to keep your priorities in order! When you fill your days doing things that don’t aren’t meaningful to you, or when you feel that you’re going no where, things are gonna start to fall apart because you’ll fall apart. You need to do things that matter to you because when you’re doing something you believe in, the effort it takes to make it happen doesn’t matter so much because you’re excited about where you’re gonna end up! The journey getting there is even fulfilling!
Now… I understand the mere mention of the word “schedule” is enough to make some of you “free spirits” cringe and possibly break out in hives… so just sit back, take a deep breath, light some incense, and hear me out…
If you want a peaceful home and NOT a chaotic house, then you’re gonna need a schedule to make it happen… there’s no other way around it (believe me, I’ve tried). You can dream about turning your house into a home all you want, but if you don’t have a way to make your dream happen… you just have a dream. If you wanna see your dream become a reality… then you need to do something to move toward the goal, and without a plan, your best intentions will never be more than just intentions.
Creating a schedule will help you not only get things done, but help you stay focused on what matters the most so you don’t get side-tracked when life throws a curve ball. It will also help you get back on track when you get derailed, and keep you focused on what you’ve already determined as important.
WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU?
What you do each and every single day reveals what’s most important to you… or at least what you’ve allowed to be most important. What does your schedule reveal about your priorities?
How much time do you spend each day on…
- or listening?
What takes up your time each day and how much time is it taking? If you’re not happy about your answer… you’re the only one who can do something about it. Don’t say you can’t because you make time for the things that matter to you each and every single day. You know how I know?…
- Your life may be falling apart, but you still brush your teeth.
- You may be busy, but you still make time to use toilet paper.
- The laundry may need to be done, but you can stop long enough to change your baby’s diaper (I hope).
- Things may be hectic, but you get your taxes turned in.
The truth is, we make time for the things that are important to us. If you want good breath and healthy teeth, a clean rear, don’t want to smell like your baby, and don’t want to go to jail… you do what’s needed to make time in your schedule.
Time isn’t something you can make more of, but you can choose how you will spend it. You make choices every day… so, how many things are important to you that you’re NOT making time for?
The things that matter most should never be at the mercy of the things that matter least. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
If you want to have a crazy, simple, good life, then you need to live your life on purpose. Your moments become your life, and how you spend each moment becomes the legacy you leave behind. Will the people you live with remember a house, or a home?
TIME FOR A CHANGE
You don’t need to accept chaos as “just a way of life” or think that you can’t love the home you live in (even if you don’t have matching totes). Your worth is not represented by how few hours you rest, or the amount of stuff you have. Your children’s future success doesn’t rely on them staying busy every spare moment they have throughout high school, and social media doesn’t replace conversation with a loved one.
You don’t have to accept this way of thinking just because it’s “normal”. Look around you… people aren’t happy and it’s because “normal” isn’t working. It’s time to do something different. If you want a home that looks different than the rest of the world… then it’s time to fight for something more important…
- more fun and less anger…
- more laughter and less yelling …
- more love and less depression…
- more understanding and less judgement…
- more order and less cleaning…
- more intention and less clutter…
- and more memories and less regret.
It really is possible to create a home with less of what you don’t want and more of what you do… but it’s not gonna happen without some effort on your part, a plan, some changes, and the determination to fight for something more important.
Whatever your life looks like… whether you’re a housewife, are in school, a single mom, homeschool your kids, work full time at home, or leave your house every day… you CAN Turn Your House Into a Home by being intentional about what you do each day!
Think about what your house looks (and feels like) right now. If you want to turn things around and make your house a home, you’re gonna need more time than you’ve been giving it right now. That doesn’t mean it will have to stay that way forever, but for now your focus needs to be on creating a home.
Take some time to sit down and make a list of what is (or needs to become) most important for you to make your house a home. How many things are important that you’re NOT making time for?
Remember, you’re not making a list of what’s important for the rest of your life… this is for just what needs to be important in your schedule right now in order for you to make your house a home. To get you started, think about things in the following areas:
- your relationships (people you spend time with, create memories together & leave a legacy behind)
- your surroundings (creating intentional functional spaces to live and work in)
- your impact (the things that make you come alive & fulfill your purpose)
- your health (your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs)
- your needs (ways you provide your shelter, food, clothing & necessities in your life)
You have to determine what is important to YOU. Not what you think you should do, but what you want to do. Not what you feel guilty in NOT doing, but what you believe is important.
YOUR NEXT STEP… Why You Can’t Do it All
* This post is from the series Turn Your House Into a Home. If you’re just joining, please read When This Time Needs to be Different to begin with the first step!