If you’ve hung out around here for any length of time, you know how I love a fresh start. It’s no secret how much I love to wipe the slate clean, and how much it means to me to get a second chance to do better than before. But one thing you might not know about me is the reason behind WHY I love those things so much… and it can be answered with one simple word: MOTHERHOOD.
Without a doubt, being a mom has brought me to my knees more times than I can count. It’s held my greatest accomplishments as well as my most embarrassing failures. It’s caused me joy like I never knew possible and pain equally as overwhelming. And, it’s shown me the necessity for grace… over and over again.
Because I’d never planned on being a mom, I can’t even begin to explain how ill-equipped I was to be a mother. After getting married to Mike, I became an “insta-mom” (stepmom) at the age of twenty, and shortly after my twenty-first birthday, I was holding my first baby.
I struggled for years through motherhood, and went to bed so many nights feeling like a failure. Looking back, I wish I would have understood the complete enormity of motherhood from the very beginning… because it wasn’t until I started seeing motherhood as the incredible blessing and life-altering responsibility that it was, that motherhood began to change for me.
Motherhood is an incredible gift.
It doesn’t necessarily matter HOW you parent; whether you get paid to work or not… whether you work outside your home or within its walls… whether you teach your kids at home or send them to school… or whether you carried your children in your womb or in your heart. Being a mother looks different for each one of us, but what you believe about being a mom will make all the difference in the lives of your children.
Motherhood is an opportunity for you to change the world.
Until you embrace the significant mission you have as a mom, the way you parent will be affected negatively because what you believe about being a mom shows in how you…
- show grace
- and spend time with your child.
What we think, always affects what we do (or don’t do)… and motherhood is no exception. The way you think WILL affect how you feel… and how you feel WILL affect how you interact with your kids on a daily basis… and how you interact with your kids on a daily basis WILL affect them for the rest of their lives.
What we say and how we say it plays a HUGE part in how the day goes… and what kind of adults our children become. The truth is, we have such GREAT impact in the short amount of time with our children before they leave home… and we have a choice whether we will embrace that awesome opportunity, or dread each day.
Instead of allowing the moments in our life to become overwhelming and frustrating… instead of feeling as if we can’t spend enough doing what matters most to us… instead of regretting all the time we’ve missed… maybe it’s time to make a change. Maybe it’s time to decide how we will respond to where we’re standing today. ~When You Need to Get Away From the Pain
You always have a choice, and while it may seem like your choices are limited after the toddler has pooped on the floor and you just slipped on it (hypothetically)… even in THAT moment, you have a choice as to how you will respond… and remember, your children are watching and learning.
TURNING 180 DEGREES THIS SUMMER
Motherhood can either make or break you… and summer break from school is NO EXCEPTION to that rule! It doesn’t matter where your kids “do school”… instead of dreading all the extra time with your kiddos, you have a choice. You have the ability to do something different this summer! Don’t worry about what’s already been done. Quit thinking about any bad summers from the past. Stop wishing that you could turn back time. There’s nothing you can do to change what’s already been done… but you can learn from it and do better moving forward starting by changing just ONE thing… YOUR ATTITUDE.
Counting down the days until school starts will not only make this summer miserable for YOU… but your kiddos too. Think about it… do you like hanging around people who truly enjoy being with you, or those who wish they were somewhere else?
- Instead of trying to just get through the day… start looking forward to another opportunity to get to know your kids.
- Instead of ignoring the issues and giving into their whining… start looking for ways to get to their hearts so they will grow into loving, responsible, trustworthy adults.
- Instead of planning out an elaborate family get-a-way, or putting them in every sport this summer just to keep them busy… start thinking of fun ways to enjoy each other and celebrate every day no matter where you’re at (starting with sitting down together for meals).
- Instead of locking yourself in your room while the kids complain or argue with each other… start helping them deal with conflicts and grow their sibling relationships.
- Instead of giving into whatever your children want… start teaching them the importance of “no” so they will grow to understand the world doesn’t revolve around them, and that “no” doesn’t mean they’re not loved.
Motherhood is a powerful mission.
With every child you have, you have another chance to change the world… and with every word you speak, you are given an opportunity to change theirs. It’s up to you whether your children will hear encouragement and laughter from your mouth… or complaining and yelling. You have the power to speak life and love into the hearts and minds of your children on a daily basis that will stay with them forever.
Dear Mom – If you wanna turn your summer around… maybe it’s time for a 180 degree turn on your attitude?
A great summer (or a bad one) starts with YOU. Motherhood is one of the most life-changing things you will ever be a part of. Let that life-changing truth restore your heart and renew your mind in a way that changes you from the inside out, because I know when you start to believe how special motherhood truly is… your actions will follow suit, and your summer (and the rest of the year) will begin to look different!
REVIVE YOUR SUMMER CHALLENGE:
#1) Begin your summer break (and every morning) with a new attitude on motherhood. Let yourself believe how important being a mom is. Be encouraged the rest of the summer by following the series, Summer Revival Kit!
#2) See your children as the incredible, unique gifts that they are. Encourage each child at least once every day. In the areas where you’re struggling with a child, remember that our greatest strengths can be our greatest weaknesses if left unchecked. Ask God to help you parent your child’s weaknesses into strengths with love, compassion, and understanding. Another suggestion to spend time encouraging your child’s individuality is to get one of the following journals to answer and look back on together in years to come.
#3) Celebrate every day! Make each day special… whether it’s cooking something different for breakfast, teaching your children something, or doing something fun as a family. For ideas on things you can celebrate every day this summer, click to print out the FREE Celebrate Every Day in June 2017 Calendar! Take time to do something out of the ordinary every day, or start a new tradition like asking your child what the best part of their day was every night before they go to bed. It will not only help you to know what they enjoy, but give them something great to think about before falling asleep.