None of us think we’ll grow old, and yet we all expect we will. I can barely remember my younger self… but I know that young woman didn’t think gravity would win, her metabolism would all but die, and years of laughter would betray the corners of her eyes and mouth.
She didn’t think the things she held deep in her heart could make her sick, or that her thoughts could rule her actions in such profound and ugly ways. And, she didn’t realize how some wounds could never be forgotten, and if not forgiven… would eat her alive.
Our health is so invisible and inconsequential when we have it that we forget it’s there until it demands our attention.
Unfortunately, many people think of (and focus on) physical health, and while it IS important, it is only one part of our complete health. There are four areas of our life when talking about health:
- spiritual: purpose / beliefs
- physically: body & surroundings
- mentally: mind / thoughts
- emotionally: happiness / feelings
If even one area of our health is lacking, we won’t be able to completely be our self… and while a wife is supposed to love her husband well (which includes putting herself after her husband), she must also find the balance in taking care of her SELF, or she
won’t can’t be any good to anyone. This means that, in order to put your husband first… you must care for your whole SELF first.
IN SICKNESS & HEALTH
A man’s health is crucial to what he can (and will) accomplish on this earth. Your husband’s physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health impact him greatly. The degree of his health will influence how much he’s able to do, for how long, and with what amount of determination he has to accomplish it.
Your husband’s health is crucial… which means, so is YOURS. If YOU are not healthy… if you are not complete, you cannot completely help your husband. You may be able to do it for while, but eventually you will find yourSELF drowning because when you are lacking, suffering, depriving, or dying spiritually, physically, mentally, or emotionally… you won’t be able to give to your husband what you no longer have. That’s why it’s so important for you to take your own health seriously.
If your husband’s health is struggling, then it’s equally important for you to take a look at your own health. While his decisions are his own to make, your health contributes to his more than you realize and is one way you begin helping you husband to a more healthy way of living. Ask God to help you make YOUR health a priority, so you can help your husband with his. Small changes will make a difference, so begin today!
What condition is YOUR health in? Remember, you cannot give what you don’t have. Write down some ideas as to how you will improve your spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional health. It’s never too late to start! Little ways will add up, so start small if you need to!
- spiritual: choose a devotional to work through or read one online
- physically: eat healthier, cut sugar, or begin a 15 minute walking plan!
- mentally: write encouraging scripture verses/inspiring quotes and leave them in places you will see throughout the day (don’t forget something you’ll see before going to sleep!), a journal to “mind dump” each night, or wind down and relax you mind & body with some yoga before bed
- emotionally: make time for a hot bath once a week, get your nails done, or schedule some time for you to do something that renews you
What condition is your husband’s health in? Take a look at the following 4 areas and on a scale of 1 to 5 (five being the best), rate your husband’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Write it down on a piece of paper, and then ask your husband how he would rate his health in the same 4 areas. Write his answers down as well. How do they compare?
time to connect…
Plan an evening out for just the two of you to discuss his health. Let him know you love him and care about his health. Ask him what you can do to help restore his health to a “5” in all areas of his life. Listen to what changes he wants to be made (remember, telling him what to do probably won’t work… let this be his plan).
Continue to pray over his health and cover the four areas of his health:
- spiritual: work through a devotional or read a book together
- physically: work out together, take a walk, go for a hike, or change to a more healthy way of eating
- mentally: say at least one encouraging thing to him every day or write him a letter
- emotionally: give him a message once a week, schedule a get-a-way for him overnight somewhere quiet and relaxing, have a picnic, or drive to the beach
I pray that my husband’s heart, mind, body, and soul would be all that You created it to be. Where there is anything out of balance in any area, reveal it to him, and help him to do whatever it takes to make things right. Please help me to do the same. I know I must be healthy in order to be the best wife I can be as well. Reveal to me all the areas I need to address, and help me to make it so.
I pray we would be set free from any feelings, thoughts, beliefs, or possessions that are holding us captive as individuals, in our marriage, or any other place. May we see the clutter for what it’s worth so we can release it before it affects our health.
Strengthen my husband’s body to handle the workload in front of him each day, and give him peaceful sleep at night so he wakes up refreshed and happy. Guard his mind so he makes sound decisions. Fill him with Your joy and peace so stress does no harm to him or his body. Heal him and make him well so he can do all the things You created him for, and may he do it with great passion, prayer, energy and intelligence until the day he leaves this earth. In the Mighty Name of Jesus, Amen.
YOUR NEXT STEP…coming soon!
*This post is from the series Warrior Wife. If you’re just joining, please read How to Create a Great Marriage to begin your fight for a better marriage!